Sho-Sho Smith is a California beach bum at heart. You might catch her tanning while typing on her boogie board during her summer writing surfari’s in Venice Beach instead of sitting at a desk.

Sho-Sho is the Asian version of Weird Barbie in her decade-long profession as a sex and relationship coach in the San Francisco Bay Area. She uplifts and disrupts the BIPOC community as a modern M.I.L.F., practicing relationship anarchy and ethical non-monogamy. She helps her single, couple, poly, and queer clients decode love and sexual racism and create self-designed relationships.

Always the late bloomer, Sho-Sho launched this third career in therapy at age 45, phoenix-style, in the aftermath of her husband’s death, as a newly single mother of two young daughters. No stranger to grief, she proudly tiger-moms her kids, clients, and readers in the life skill of turning falling into flying.

Sho-Sho earned her M.F.A. from the University of Iowa Writers’ Workshop and her B.A. from UCLA. She founded the first women’s hackerspace, Mothership Hacker Moms and was a Fortune 500 corporate dropout in finance, tech, and retail. Sho-Sho is now in her fourth career as a writer. Or, as she likes to call it, a “wrathlete.”

She is currently wrathleting her first book at midlife, Crycation, a turning-fifty memoir for BIPOC women. In it, she smashes the patriarchy and plots her middle-age comeback while partying her way down the California Coast in search of good vibes.

IG: @socialshosho